Silas Gabriel Brink’s Birthday

January 23rd, 2010 by Shannon
Well, I'm finally sitting down to write down the story of how Silas came into the world. Reader discretion is advised (I'm a nurse you see, and realize that some people want ALL the details).

Here goes:
So the week before Silas was born I had a lot of braxton hicks contractions. I had had them for weeks and weeks but they seemed to be coming on more. The tuesday before I lost part of my mucus plug and continued losing it until about Friday so I was wondering if things were happening. The midwife tried to check me on Wednesday to see how far along I was, but it wasn't particularly enlightening so it was still ambiguous when labor would officially begin. That night I had a lot of regular braxton hicks so went to bed thinking "maybe tonight!" Nope. Ambiguity continued. Then on Friday I had braxton hicks contractions all throughout the day- and was thinking it MUST be starting today!!! Well, I slept terribly that night and ended up napping all morning (my official due date January 16th) but the contractions had stopped. ARG. That day my family made bets on when baby was to be born and everything thought not until the next week or two...
Well that night I thought my water was breaking at about 10 pm. We called the midwife and she came by to check and said it was 'ambiguous' if it was amniotic fluid so.....??? She said I might go into labour that night. So I showered, went to bed and as soon as I went to bed the contractions started hard and fast. They started at 5 min apart and already fairly strong and painful in my back. After a couple of hours of coping, sitting on the ball, 'attempting' to watch a movie, we called the midwife back. She came and checked me and I was at 3 cm or so. She said to call her when they intensified in a number of hours.
HA! A number of hours? Like 2 hours later we called because they were strong and getting closer and closer together, already at like 2.5 minutes or so apart. She checked me again and found me to be 3-4 cm apart so started calling to the hospital.
Bit of drama at this point. I was getting such intense contractions and back pain...and she called Surrey hospital and they couldn't take me! Something about not enough nursing staff??? The other hospital within close distance is Langley and they couldn't take me either! I was already starting to sense that I would need some pain meds soon because they were getting to be so painful. Another midwife arrived too to help with the coping and starting putting a lot of pressure on my back because the labor was so intense in my back.

Well Surrey finally decided to take me but said I'd have to wait at home for 2 hours until the next nursing shift arrived. I tell you- those two hours were very, very hard. I wanted to get to the hospital so badly and was in so much pain. The contractions were already right on top of each other. We tried the bath tub, the ball, anything but I was crying and having a really hard time coping.

Finally, after two hours of this, we were going to the hospital at about 7 am. The ride to the hospital was super hard for J and I. I clutched that uh-oh handle like nobody's business! When we got there they rushed me into the room and right away threw some gas on me. yay! delirium! Was a nice break from the pain a bit. They checked me and already I was 5 cm dilated, and fully effaced, and baby Silas' head had engaged quite far in the pelvis and was quite low.

So I took the epidural. I was in such heavy back pain that it seemed the right time to use it- the best time to use it actually because we thought maybe it could relax me enough to take me to 10 cm. Oh how I loved that anesthesiologist! The epidural was delightful and SO necessary.

So they did the whole IV, foley and epidural. And I was supposed to sleep at this point but I was too relieved that most of the pain was gone (save the serious pressure in my back and pelvis).

Two hours later the midwife checked me and no change...so she popped my bag of waters.
Two more hours later they were monitoring baby's heart and it started to appear that baby was not coping with the stress of labor. It was a bit panicky so the midwife called the OB in. He wasn't as concerned about the heart although the rest of the staff seemed to be gearing up towards a c-section already and prepping me for surgery already. The OB checked me then and found that not only was I not any further dilated (still at 5 cm) but the baby's had had actually gone back UP the pelvis and was not engaged anymore, was posterior facing (hence the back labor) and his head was now de-flexed when it should be flexed.

SO he determined this baby was truly not going to come out the pelvis and he needed to do an emergency c-section. It was pretty emotional and tough because I really did want to have the baby naturally and things had been going along so well up until that point. Plus, it felt scary and rushed because there were so many people in the room getting me prepped for surgery.

However, as soon as we saw his little face peak over the curtain in the operating room, I was so relieved and happy to know that he was healthy and perfect, and was sooo cute- that a c-section really wasn't going to get me down enough to ruin our first moments with him.

Jason was there in the whole surgery and then met me in the recovery room with baby silas where we cuddled and tried breast feeding for the first time. SO many tears were shed- it was just very special. Then we were wheeled back to my room where my parents were waiting and I cried lots and lots more. Phew. What an emotional day!

So the next three days at the hospital got increasingly better. It was hard at first not being to eat or move, trying to breastfeed and not sleeping at all (just had a really hard time sleeping those first few days). But slowly I was able to get up more and do more.

By day three were able to go home- yay! It's been great being home too- feeling more comfortable in my rocking chair to breast feed. And Silas has been eating and gaining weight super well. He's already surpassed his birthweight at only 5 days old when they usually expect that to happen after 2/3 weeks! The nights can be tough for me- just feeling like you never get to sleep and are always awake. But we're loving all the special moments with him...giggling over his sounds and facial expressions, laughing when he pees and poops and spits up simultaneously, and just enjoying cuddling and kissing him.

So that's the story of Silas' birth. He weighed 6 lbs 12 oz at birth and was born on january 17 at 12:54 pm. =)

37 weeks

December 29th, 2009 by Shannon
Yikes. Any day now I'm going to be 'officially' a Mom. Not really sure how to process this information. How do I get ready?? I feel more uncomfortable sitting than ever- with every twist and turn the baby makes I either have to run off to the bathroom to pee, feel short of breath, or have to get up...feels like this body is definitely getting a bit too small for the two of us. So, in that way, I'm ready to be done pregnancy and meet my little boy. Yet- it's kind of,well, yup... scaring me to death. How will labour go? And after he arrives, THEN WHAT DO I DO? (okay, I need to relax a bit, but I'm super nervous about how I'll transition into motherhood). Any tips from 'been there, done that' first time parents?

Rewarding what matters

December 20th, 2009 by Jason

Shannon and I were talking the other day about parenting. We were talking about what kinds of things we want to try to train into our son, and what kinds of values we would want him to have. We were wondering for the ump-teenth time what he will be like, and what his interests will be. Will he like sports? Will he be interested in science? Will he be musical, artistic, a writer? Shannon and I were both quite academic in nature growing up, and so one of us made the comment that it might be challenging for us if our child wasn’t academic. How will we encourage him to reach his full potential, yet not punish him or make him feel bad for bringing home a C on his report card if he tried his best and just had a hard time in that subject?

And then, Shannon said something that I thought was very profound, and that I’ve been thinking about for several days. She said, “What if we were to reward character over acheivement?” That totally clicked with me. Although we would want to celebrate if our son gets an A in some class, why not get even MORE excited if he stood up for a friend who was being picked on, even if it wasn’t popular? Why not give “gold stars” not just for doing chores around the house, but for the attitude with which they are done? Why not recognize hard work and diligence, even if the results aren’t quite what had been hoped for? Why not make it ok to fail, as long as you are doing things honestly and with integrity? Why not get the most excited, give the most praise, and give the highest rewards to the things that really matter?

My sense is, that could totally turn our son’s value system up-side-down from that of the culture’s around us - in a good way! He wouldn’t cheat to try to get a better mark, because it’s honesty that counts more than the grades. He wouldn’t feel worthless or like he had done something wrong if he failed at a project or an endeavor, because success isn’t what matters most. He wouldn’t feel that the ends justify the means, because the way you get somewhere really does matter.

This was especially challenging to me lately because I’ve been reading the book “Outliers”, by Malcom Gladwell. It’s been a fascinating read about what makes someone rise above the crowd to be exceptionally successful. He mentions a number of examples where particular upbringings or parenting styles provided children with a tremendous advantage in becoming an “outlier”. And, I find myself thinking, I want to do those things to give my child the best chance at success. I want him to stand above the rest! And yet, as much as success is great, I have to remind myself, what really matters? What do I have as my definition of success?

In the end, I believe that character does matter over acheivement. Why? Because I believe that’s the value system God has. We usually ask God to remove the problems we have in life, but I’m starting to understand that they are often tools He is using to refine our character. Think of what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13. If I can speak in the tongues of men and angels, or have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries, or even if I give all I have to the poor, but I don’t have love, I’ve gained nothing. The character and motivation behind our achievements is perhaps the only thing that counts! 

And so, my hope and prayer is that by rewarding character over acheivement, we’ll be able to instill that value in our son as well.

The Preparations Continue

November 27th, 2009 by Jason

My co-worker (who is also named Jason) and his wife just had their baby this morning. We’ve been comparing notes now and then over the last few months, since their due date was only a month before ours. So, the fact that their baby has arrived (although 2 and a half weeks early) has really started to make me think - there’s not much time till our baby arrives too!

I mean, we have most things ready:

  • Crib - check
  • Stroller - check
  • Car seat - check
  • Change table - check
  • Rocking chair - on the way
  • Baby clothes - check and check! (but then, I hear they need lots!)
But, we’ve still got a few things we’re trying to get ready:
  • Bag to take to the hospital
  • New car to replace our 2-door hatchback (if we can afford it)
  • Ordering our “how to be a parent” manual - anyone know where to find one?
  • Sleep deprivation training
  • A heaping helping of patience, grace, and light-hearted attitude
Judging by the fun I’ve had recently hanging out with some other people’s kids recently, I’m sure I will totally love having a baby - at least most of the time. May God give me grace for the rest!
Hanging out with Jeff and Ashlees son Nate

Hanging out with Jeff and Ashlees son Nate

my active little boy, insomnia, and other pregnancy facts

November 24th, 2009 by Shannon
33 weeks already and insomnia has taken over. I woke up last night at 2:30, then 5:30, then was awake for good at about 6:00. Tossing, turning, peeing, ahhh! So frustrating! It doesn't even really make sense to me because I feel tired but I just can't get comfortable. And my little boy moved a little jungle gym into my belly, or at least that's how it feels. Now, don't get me wrong, I am proud of his little break dancing moves and every time he moves I feel a sense of reassurance...but at the same time.....I feel like spanking (what I think is his little bum poking into my ribs) and say, "SIT STILL!" But I guess this is what I should expect for having a little boy.
I started reading this book about raising boys called "wild things," and from what I've read and seen in little boys, I'm in for a ride! The authors of this book talk about how curious and active little boys are wired to be...oh man. I wonder why we bought a new house? I'm sure the little guy will destroy it before he's 5. Makes me think I should already change the home to fit a little boy's energy...turn the den into an empty room with rubber walls, install a fireman's pole from the top floor to the bottom. Hmm.
I can't believe in some ways that I could have this little boy any day! I feel not yet prepared- but then over prepared at the same time. I made a ridiculous amount of applesauce the other day (?) clearly unnecessary, but then I still lack a number of things from the nursery, don't have my hospital bag packed, haven't bought Christmas presents...ahhh! Will I be ready? I guess I will have to be in one way or another!

What else to report in pregnancy? I'm itchy, suddenly ravenous at random times, feel like I'm not sure if I'm going to pee my pants most of the time (especially while in superstore- I hate that place, it's far too big), and I'm wondering how it's possible that I have to wait TWO MORE MONTHS for this pregnancy to be done with. Sigh.


30 weeks

November 8th, 2009 by Shannon
So. Got my H1N1 vaccine. hmph. I hate decisions and I hate difficult decisions even more. J and I hummed and hawed and prayed and researched and decided to go ahead. Now 2 days afterwards my legs feel achy....am I just becoming a paranoid mommy? Oh man, I guess it's the beginning of difficult decisions!

Otherwise- I've officially reached the "I can't see my feet" phase. I love the kicking and moving and dancing and re-decorating that goes on in my belly though. Baby gets inches out with his kicks and it looks soo weird and feels even more bizarre.

I'm getting on a plane next week. Ugh. I hate flying and hate it even MORE in pregnancy. Something about stale air, not being able to move, bumpy turbulence and nausea all rolled into one. Now I'm contemplating- should I wear a mask? Would people think I'M the sickie or just that I'm paranoid?

I'm nostalgic in a way to think that pregnancy only lasts a few more months but mainly just getting excited about meeting this little boy. Curly hair or straight? Dark or blond? Blue eyes or brown? Left handed or right? So many questions and anxieties until I actually count his fingers and toes.

Third trimester here I come!

October 26th, 2009 by Shannon








































Yup- here's the belly, growing bigger and bigger!

I love this part of pregnancy....and here are some of the reasons why:

-baby is wiggling, jumping, moving, hiccuping all the time (feels funny!)
-If I groan while attempting to tie my shoes, Jason will tie them for me
-I get back rubs often
-I have a good excuse to use 5 pillows at night
-Playing with my bellybutton is acceptable considering it's size
-I can still see my toes
-I get short of breath walking up a hill (which is kind of funny actually)
-3 more months and I get to hold my son!

...can't wait...



Fall Update on work with Power to Change

October 25th, 2009 by Jason

We’ve been back from Africa for about 3 1/2 months now, and I (Jason) have gotten fully back into my work in the IT department at Power to Change. I try to send out an update about what’s going on in the ministry and how I’m involved with it (along with some personal updates) every few months. For family and friends who are interested, here’s the latest fall update.

Fall PTC Update

Placenta brain really does exist!

October 7th, 2009 by Shannon
I seem to remember having a lightbulb idea of what I wanted to write about on here, but now have completey lost my brain again...it's really becoming a losing battle. Placenta - 10, Brain -1. In fact, without scaring fellow nurses too terribly out there, I made a ridiculous medication error the other day and I can't explain it except to say that I think my placenta took all my blood from my brain and I was left with a few cells to do my work. I walked clear into a different patients room, not really remembering that my patient was supposed to be a man, and gave a random woman patient my man's medication. What was I thinking? I have never made such a blatant error but I figure my life is over as I once knew it. Is this what motherhood will be like? Forgetting things mid-sentence, walking one direction then realizing I should be walking the other, having blank-out moments when I am not really sure what is going on....yikes. Someone reassure me I'll get my brain back post-child!!!

6 months

September 27th, 2009 by Shannon
So I'm 6 months today. I have to say I'm enjoying this time more than any other so far in pregnancy. Feeling baby kicking away, getting winded walking a few feet too fast, starting to buy baby 'stuff.' I'm getting excited now that some of the major hurdles are over...or so I think! I guess I'll only get bigger and bigger from here! I like that people can actually TELL now that I'm pregnant. Although now people are asking to touch my belly, at first I was appalled! How weird of a question is that! But then I realized, 'oh yeah, it IS cool to touch a pregnant woman's belly.' Hard to get used to though! Now ahead is just trying to pick out names. I basically have to stop running names past people. I'm tired of seeing people's reactions to names I like. I figure they're pretty normal names but then...I guess we all have our opinions. I guess the name will stay a secret until the end! (especially since we haven't a clue what to call him!) I'm willing to take suggestions though...